Do you want to know what most people say when I ask them, “What do you want?”
The answer is most often, “…. I don’t know.”
It’s funny because I remember at the beginning of this decade, my answer was the same! At the time, I was living my life based on other people’s expectations and what I thought I should be doing.
I was the “responsible one” out of my friends and my family. I was climbing the corporate ladder, we had the house, the kids, I volunteered, and was doing all of the things until one day, I just stopped in my tracks.
I couldn’t figure out what was wrong at that time but it was that I didn’t know who I was as a woman!
There were two things I needed in my life that set me on the journey of who I am today. I highly recommend you start digging into these two things as we wrap up 2019 so as we go into 2020, you can be moving towards what you actually want in life.
Experience More In Life
If you’ve been consuming my content at all, you know that one of the things I share most is that you can do more by doing less. This is how!
Start by asking yourself, “What is most important to me today?” and start intentionally creating experiences that are in line with that.
It is so, so easy to be on the treadmill of life and keep doing all the things that you’re “supposed” to be doing. For me though, that never gave me space to be creative or an opportunity to dream about what could be beyond the normal!
By stepping off the treadmill and intentionally creating more experiences, the more you’ll be able to figure out what is important to you and what you want. The next time you look at something and wonder to yourself, “I wonder what that is like,” go do that thing!
- Is it a cooking class?
- Is it a new play date with your kids?
- Is it joining a women’s group?
- Is it planning a new adventurous date with your partner?
Lean into any fear or nervousness it may bring up for you because that is a sign you’re about to uncover something amazing!
Collect Your Evidence
As you start creating these new experiences, it’s important to start collecting evidence that it is meant for you.
Do you ever have those days where it just feels like everything around you perfectly lined up? It’s probably because you took the time to slow down, check in with yourself, look up at the world, and noticed what was actually going on around you! This is so different than having your head down and being stuck in tunnel vision with all of your to-do’s. Sound familiar?
If you don’t know where to find pieces of evidence, start by observing the things that people always say you’re good at. Thing about those moments in your experience when you’re heart felt on fire and you felt pure joy!
Are you ready?
There are 65 days left in the year! Think about –
- How can you create more experiences?
- How can you follow your curiosities?
- How can you figure out what is most important to you?
All of this is so you can ultimately answer the question, “What do you want?”
Do this rather than waiting for New Years Eve to come around and set New Year’s Resolution that you’re never going to keep! (And it’s not just you – over 80% of New Year’s Resolutions are dissolved by February!)
Let’s not let another decade go by living someone else’s life, following someone else’s rules and not living in alignment with who we really are. That’s not what life is about.
I encourage you to collect experiences and collect evidence that life is for you.
Do you need any help with his? Email me at carmen@carmenohling.com so I can help you get on the right path to living the life of your dreams.
Wishing you a ton of light and love,
Carmen
