by Carmen Ohling | Mar 11, 2020 | Uncategorized
🔻I use to tell myself that I wasn’t good at making friends with other women. I shied away from building intentional female relationships and I often put other women up on pedestals, dreaming to be like them. I felt like I could never be, do or measure up to how and what they were as a woman. I was afraid of what they would think of me, of saying the wrong thing, wearing the wrong thing… looking stupid.⠀
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🔺Here is what I know now. Creating intentional relationships with other powerful women lifts you up, supports you, and challenges you to be your best. Don’t get me wrong, this shift didn’t happen overnight but as I started to work on my own personal spirituality and growth I was able to begin to cultivate my own authentic voice and step into my confidence as a unique and powerful women of my own. This was the key for me. By cleaning up my side of the street, owning my own shit and and developing my own voice I was able to start sharing vulnerably and building intentional connections with the most amazing women!⠀
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🔺So if you said, YES, I can 100% relate to what I shared- start by looking within. You already know the answer, it’s there. Start shining your authentic light and voice and the women that are meant to be part of your life we come…⠀
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🔺I am grateful for each of the women that have made a huge impact on my life, I thank you and send you so much love today.⠀
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by Carmen Ohling | Feb 27, 2020 | Uncategorized
Question: When was the last time you felt let down?
If you answer this truthfully, it’s most likely the last time that you had an expectation for a person or situation. There is a quote that says “expectation is the thief of all joy.” This could not be more true! Think about it, what if you went into each interaction or experience being completely open. Open to what is possible, held space for others to be their authentic self; how do you think this would change things for you?
Watch this quick video as I share one of the recent times I felt let down and how I was able to reframe my perception.
https://www.instagram.com/tv/B2myBtzF_zn/
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 20, 2020 | Tips for Success
I take care of my body. Movement, nourishing foods, self-awareness, slowing down radical responsibility, dream chasing and love fill my days. I am relentless about caring for my body and mind and I set boundaries like a mother f**cker!⠀⠀
BUT, I HAVE FLAWS TOO… 👇🏽👇🏽⠀⠀
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I have stripes on my body (aka stretch marks). Check out the back of my thighs!⠀⠀
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I have a ton of scars on my skin: thank you chicken pox, box jumps, acne, burns and more I am sure I am missing!⠀⠀
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If I am not careful I can put work, achievement and the illusion of sourcing my self worth from what society tells me is “success.”⠀⠀
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I spent years (literally like 30+) hating my body and in constant comparison to other women that I placed on a pedestal as “better” than me, “prettier” than me, more “successful” than me, “stronger” than me… the list was endless! ⠀⠀
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NOW I KNOW… 👇🏽👇🏽⠀⠀
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We are all one. Truly we are more alike than different. I’ve discovered that true, authentic vulnerability is the most rewarding part of our human existence. Try it!⠀⠀
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Our physical body does not defined our self worth. Neither does the scale, clothes size or any other way we use to measure our skin. Start taking care of your body and mind consistently every day, focusing on what feels good to you (not what is expected) and watch your confidence soar! ⠀⠀
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Comparison is the most detrimental activity in our daily lives. WE MUST STOP! For me, after 30 years of comparison programming, it takes daily intentional reframing of my thoughts to ensure I am aligning my thoughts with my highest self daily. If you’re stuck in the comparison spiral, try this: recognize when your comparing, tell yourself “this thought is not of my highest self,” then choose a new thought. ⠀⠀
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TELL ME… 👇🏽👇🏽⠀⠀
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One thing that is holding you back from living your best life, you are ready to let go of… Or better yet join me at the Permission Slip Tour on March 7th in Portland, Oregon and we can chat more about this in person!
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Sending each of you a ton of love and light today. May it fill you with inspiration and energy!
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 12, 2020 | Movitation
REAL TALK….⠀
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How often do you ask for help? ⠀
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If you’re anything like I was, and the other thousands of women out there working to prove that we can do it all, the answer is most likely never.⠀
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Here’s where we’ve got that mixed up. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness and it in no way devalues our worth as a woman. Yes, I use to think that and it’s comes up so often with the female entrepreneurs and business leaders I work with. ⠀
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Asking for help is actually sign of strength and wisdom. As women, we are not meant to do this alone- so why the fuck do we think that? Why do we isolate instead of reach out when life gets tough? Why do we say “I’ve got it” when inside we have no idea how we are going to get it all done? I’ll tell you what I use to think- I was afraid of letting others down, I was living up to some stupid set of expectations that were not even my own and I sourced all of my self worth as a women from doing and accomplishing things. ⠀
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THIS IS YOUR PERMISSION SLIP TO ASK FOR HELP!!⠀
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Start small and build your asking muscle. Asking for help creates space, creativity and clarity in your life- in addition to building strong, powerful relationships. You will be amazed that when you start asking for help (on things that actually matter) you will feel lighter, less overwhelmed and be open to new possibilities.
Want to chat more about this? Email me at: carmen@carmenohling.com
Sending you a ton of light and love today,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 6, 2020 | Live.
I’ve been thinking some heavy thoughts this week. One moment I’m on top of the world and the next I’m all up in my head worried about things I have no control over. …⠀
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Anyone feel me?⠀
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It’s easy to do, especially when you share love so freely. ⠀
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I’ve been reminding myself these two important lessons:⠀
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1. Nothing has meaning, until YOU place meaning on it. ⠀
Have you ever heard the phrase, “life is empty and meaningless”? Did you instantly think that that is a negative statement?
If so, why?
Likely, it’s because when you think of the word “empty”, you think of that as something that is lacking something. That is the meaning that you put on it.
And maybe when you hear the word “meaningless”, you equate that as something that isn’t worthy of anything. That is the meaning you put on it.
But could it be possible that if something is empty, it could mean that there is infinite room for greatness and possibility?
If something is meaningless, could it mean that it is available for us to put all the color and life we want into it?
The answer is yes. It CAN mean any of those things but it is up to YOU to decide which one it is.
In that spirit, it’s also up to you to decide what it means when someone walks past you without saying hi.
It’s up to you to decide if something your boss said was a jab at you or not.
It’s up to you to decide if that broken promise means anything about what you are worth.
It’s up to you to decide if your last try at something meant success or failure.
It is all up to you – so choose carefully how you decide to color your world.
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#2. Life is all about experiences.
Both the ups and downs.
Everything is happening FOR you, for your growth, for you to remember to rely on the strength that is not your own and have UNSHAKABLE faith. ⠀
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So if things are rocky right now, look around and try to see your circumstance through a new lense.
How could this be for you?
What gold is hidden underneath the mess?
I’m sharing because I know that I’m not alone and I want you to know that you are not alone either.
Could you use someone to chat with? Email me at carmen@carmenohling.com if you need some help putting new meaning on the life happening around you.
Wishing you a ton of light and love,
Carmen
