by Carmen Ohling | Mar 4, 2022 | Uncategorized
We all need a nudge every now and then, so here is a fun list you can adopt for yourself!
Things that we can collectively no longer apologize for….
Leaving a job that drains the life out of you.
Sleeping in.
Asking for what you need.
Declining a phone call.
Doing what’s best for you, despite what others think or say.
Removing someone from your life.
Sending money on something that you want.
Taking a break from social media.
Not answering a text or email right away, or even same day.
Your spiritual beliefs.
Setting and sticking to boundaries.
Asking for what you need.
Saying no to others.
What do you want to add to the list? Let me know in the comments!
Here‘s to living our best life,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 25, 2022 | Uncategorized
I want it and I want it now! – Veruca Salt in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
Do you need a reminder of this, click HERE to watch! But, what happens to Veruca in the end? Because of her frantic manifesting and controlling, the Universe serves her up the exact opposite of what she desired.
Society has taught us that the faster and more convenient something is, the better it is… but is that true?
Think back to something you truly desired and worked hard for… did it come quickly, or did it come over time with a few bumps in the road?
We often forget about all of the miracle moments that happen along the journey, or worse yet we are so focused on the end result we never even experience the everyday moments that make a miraculous life. I want you to know that what is meant for you will not pass you, ever. Loosen your grip just slightly and see where you can continue to take inspired action daily AND also be present in each of the moments of your life like they are the most important moments.
Notice how things change for you because they will.
Notice how you feel…
Get ready to welcome inner peace.
Lots of love,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 18, 2022 | Uncategorized
A couple of weeks ago I was sitting in contemplation of two ideas, which proved to be very profound for me in my life. So today I am sharing it with you!
Here are the two ideas…
1. Devotion
2. Attachment
I sat considering what each of these meant in my life and here is what I came up with:
Devotion is expansive, giving, holding space, and operating from a place of love. Attachment is constricting, ego-based, a comfortable low vibration, and attempts to bring you down or keep you in one place. What if we all got clear on what we are devoted to and even more clear on what we are attached to in our own lives. If you are with me this year and you are striving to upgrade every element of your life, then this process seems like it is absolutely necessary. Without this self-awareness, it will be very easy to be blind to our own attachments and unknowingly step back into the comfort that so sneakily holds us back.
I am devoted to:
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My spiritual relationship, being obedient
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Myself, my optimal health
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Joal
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My opportunity to serve
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My family (including close friends)
What I am attached to:
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I first wrote everything… LOL!
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Negative thought patterns around my body, relationship, and finances
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Using coping/numbing to not feel, especially to not feel
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Using being busy to feel worthy, rather than being still connecting to Source
Now the question for each of us is how can I intentionally spend more time in devotion and less time holding tightly to my attachments? What if I loosened my grip on my attachments, even better… what if I completely let go?
Reminder: Miracles are natural, and when they are not occurring something has gone wrong.
Sending you a ton of high vibe light today,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 11, 2022 | Uncategorized
How much time do you spend carefully curating your selfies?⠀
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How much time do you spend curating the words you think and speak to yourself?⠀
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Your thoughts are powerful. The words you think and speak to yourself shape your life and paint your reality whether you realize it or not. ⠀
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I use to fear my thoughts, believing I had no control over them. After digging in (and lots of daily practice of reframing) I learned that my thinking was creating my experiences, just like your thoughts are likely creating yours!⠀
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As I learned to take control of my thoughts, it became easier to align myself with higher thoughts and my entire life began to shift!⠀
Ways You Can Reframe Your World
1. Observe – Keep a journal handy and start by paying close attention to the thoughts that go through your mind in any given day. Now, really try to pay attention! Catching the thoughts that you tell yourself isn’t super easy to do because the things you tell yourself and choose to believe are incredibly subconscious. Take note of everything! Your own positive self praises, the moments you’re being hard on yourself and the things you might be thinking about other people.
2. Reflect – After three days, review your journal as if you were a stranger reading about the story of someone’s life. Are the thoughts you’re reading one of a woman who truly believes in herself and is kind to others? Are you reading about a woman who is constantly wondering why these things always happen to her? Are you reading about someone who gives grace to herself and others? Is trapped by her own negative self talk?
3. Reframe – Take note of a single thought that is clearly not serving you and brainstorm ways you can see that thought in a new light. For example, you can take “Why is this happening to me?” and turn it into, “How is this happening for me?” See how that went from a place of defeat to a window of opportunity? Or perhaps you can take the thought, “I can’t handle this” and reframe it to, “I know I’m capable of working through this because I’ve conquered _____.”
4. Grant Grace – If you start to feel overwhelmed by how many thoughts you should likely reframe or are frustrated that the reframes aren’t coming naturally, do not worry! This is perfectly normal and shouldn’t be a cause for frustration. Here’s why… At the end of the day, your thoughts are trying to protect you. When life gets tough or scary, your mind wants to save you from that and the easiest way to do so is by preventing you from leaning into the discomfort. That being said, the way to “win” here isn’t by achieving zero negative thoughts in a day. The “win” is that you’re able to realize when you’re experiencing a thought that isn’t serving you to the highest potential and are able to turn into something better.
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Some Extra Practice
For me, it’s easiest to generate positive thoughts throughout the day when I start by putting myself in the right headspace first thing in the morning. Here are a few powerful thoughts (mantras) that I use to align myself and my thoughts to high vibe energy:⠀
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I am complete. ⠀
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Life is fun, easy and every flowing. ⠀
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My life is infinitely abundant. ⠀
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The world needs me and my unique gifts. ⠀
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I am a magnet for miracles. ⠀
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There is enough time and money for everything. ⠀
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I always have everything I need, and it flows to me in abundance and at the perfect time. ⠀
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I deserve the best in life. ⠀
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I am filled with positive, radiant light and I shine wherever I go. ⠀
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There is plenty of time and money for everything.
I want to hear from you! What is your favorite mantra or words of affirmation that you use? Email me at carmen@carmenohling.com and share one of your own or take one of mine and make it your own.
Wishing you a ton of light and love,
Carmen⠀
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 4, 2022 | Uncategorized
Let’s chat about FEAR. I think with all that’s happening right now, it’s a perfect topic for this week….⠀⠀
I used to be so wrapped up in what others thought of me, I didn’t even know who I was anymore. “Who am I to do this?”, “There are people who are better than me”, “What if I mess up and look dumb?” were thoughts that replayed in my head day after day and held me back in every way imaginable. ⠀⠀
They were on repeat in my head and there was no way I could stop them. But honestly, I didn’t even try. I didn’t try because I was in fear of what I might uncover. Instead, I just filled every day with more and more. I thought that the more I did and the more external validation I received, the better I would feel. I lived every day so neutral, so “everything is fine”, that I didn’t even know what it was like to experience true joy. ⠀⠀
Until…. I was over it.⠀I became so sick of not achieving all that I wanted in life and knowing everything I was doing was based on one single emotion… fear. Here is the thing – I knew that fear was not going to completely disappear from my life, so I needed to stop viewing it as a bad thing to get rid of. Instead, I needed to view it as something that was perfectly fine. What was not perfectly fine, was it running my life.⠀⠀
I became determined to have a healthy relationship with fear and here is what I learned. You get to choose. Instead of focusing on “what is the worst that can happen” try focusing on “what is the best that can happen. Or, instead of focusing on “there’s not enough ____” (Like: There is never enough time or money) try focusing on “there is always plenty of time and money for everything.”⠀⠀
Having a healthy relationship with fear does not consist of filling your day with more to-do’s. More to-dos that you take on simply to gain some external validation that will make you feel temporarily better about yourself. (Keyword: Temporarily.)⠀⠀
I believe in you, and I know that you are capable of doing so many great things. Creating a healthy relationship with fear is going to take effort and patience with yourself, but this is something you can do! ⠀
So, hit reply today and tell me….where are you allowing fear to hold you back?
Here’s to fully stepping into our power together,
Carmen
