Body Image. Self Worth. Happiness.
I use to relate all three of these, often. I remember the first time someone asked me how much I weighed I was in 6th grade. She was in high school and I looked up to her, to be clear I idolized her. My weight at the time was something like 70lbs but she made it seem like it was a lot….
This shaped the start of my preoccupation with my body image, weight, self worth and happiness. For over a decade I obsessed about my weight, under eating, over exercising and being all up in my head with constant comparison and judgement. Anyone remember buns of steel with Tamilee Webb?
It’s so easy to tell ourselves (especially as women) that we won’t be satisfied or find true happiness until we achieve a certain dress size or scale weight. The truth is, it isn’t our weight that makes a difference, it’s how we treat ourselves and our body that matters. The lie I use to tell myself over and over and over was: once I reach X weight I will be happy. Guess what? I got to the weight and wasn’t happy.
Ok, so here’s the truth. Your weight does not define you, but how you treat yourself does. Society tells us you need to be skinny or gives you a permission slip need to accept your unhealthy body. So WFT are we suppose to do here?!?!
First thing to know, to accept, and to understand is that you are worthy of happiness, love, and everything you desire at any weight or dress size. The most important things to consider is how you treat yourself- body and mind. Eating shitty food, day in and out is abusing you body. It makes you feel like shit, both physically and mentally. Again, this is the point here- YOUR WEIGHT DOES NOT DEFINE YOU BUT HOW YOU TREAT YOURSELF DOES.
Believe me, it can be a struggle, and sometimes I still struggle. What I try to do is focus on listening to my body and daily movement, not to achieve a certain weight. I focus on feeling good everyday, and I encourage you to do the same. Write out how you want to feel, and then write out what makes you feel that way.
So whether you are looking to gain weight, lose weight, have more energy or feel amazing, treating your body with respect and listening to what it needs to going to be the best.
What do you think and feel about this? Let’s chat! Shoot me a message at firstname.lastname@example.org or connect on social media.
Working to live my best life and helping you to do the same,