by Carmen Ohling | Feb 12, 2020 | Movitation
REAL TALK….⠀
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How often do you ask for help? ⠀
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If you’re anything like I was, and the other thousands of women out there working to prove that we can do it all, the answer is most likely never.⠀
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Here’s where we’ve got that mixed up. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness and it in no way devalues our worth as a woman. Yes, I use to think that and it’s comes up so often with the female entrepreneurs and business leaders I work with. ⠀
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Asking for help is actually sign of strength and wisdom. As women, we are not meant to do this alone- so why the fuck do we think that? Why do we isolate instead of reach out when life gets tough? Why do we say “I’ve got it” when inside we have no idea how we are going to get it all done? I’ll tell you what I use to think- I was afraid of letting others down, I was living up to some stupid set of expectations that were not even my own and I sourced all of my self worth as a women from doing and accomplishing things. ⠀
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THIS IS YOUR PERMISSION SLIP TO ASK FOR HELP!!⠀
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Start small and build your asking muscle. Asking for help creates space, creativity and clarity in your life- in addition to building strong, powerful relationships. You will be amazed that when you start asking for help (on things that actually matter) you will feel lighter, less overwhelmed and be open to new possibilities.
Want to chat more about this? Email me at: carmen@carmenohling.com
Sending you a ton of light and love today,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Feb 6, 2020 | Live.
I’ve been thinking some heavy thoughts this week. One moment I’m on top of the world and the next I’m all up in my head worried about things I have no control over. …⠀
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Anyone feel me?⠀
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It’s easy to do, especially when you share love so freely. ⠀
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I’ve been reminding myself these two important lessons:⠀
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1. Nothing has meaning, until YOU place meaning on it. ⠀
Have you ever heard the phrase, “life is empty and meaningless”? Did you instantly think that that is a negative statement?
If so, why?
Likely, it’s because when you think of the word “empty”, you think of that as something that is lacking something. That is the meaning that you put on it.
And maybe when you hear the word “meaningless”, you equate that as something that isn’t worthy of anything. That is the meaning you put on it.
But could it be possible that if something is empty, it could mean that there is infinite room for greatness and possibility?
If something is meaningless, could it mean that it is available for us to put all the color and life we want into it?
The answer is yes. It CAN mean any of those things but it is up to YOU to decide which one it is.
In that spirit, it’s also up to you to decide what it means when someone walks past you without saying hi.
It’s up to you to decide if something your boss said was a jab at you or not.
It’s up to you to decide if that broken promise means anything about what you are worth.
It’s up to you to decide if your last try at something meant success or failure.
It is all up to you – so choose carefully how you decide to color your world.
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#2. Life is all about experiences.
Both the ups and downs.
Everything is happening FOR you, for your growth, for you to remember to rely on the strength that is not your own and have UNSHAKABLE faith. ⠀
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So if things are rocky right now, look around and try to see your circumstance through a new lense.
How could this be for you?
What gold is hidden underneath the mess?
I’m sharing because I know that I’m not alone and I want you to know that you are not alone either.
Could you use someone to chat with? Email me at carmen@carmenohling.com if you need some help putting new meaning on the life happening around you.
Wishing you a ton of light and love,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Jan 30, 2020 | Live.
Have you ever set a goal and were SO excited about the outcome? But then your schedule ends up looking something like this –
- Week 1 – It’s a little hard but you’re confident about pushing through it
- Week 2 – Life gets in the way and then you give up
So what happened here? How were you able to have an amazing thought that lit you up and yet you were able to drop it in just two weeks?
You know what most people say?
“I lost motivation.”
Let’s change this!
Let’s make a paradigm shift and instead of relying on pure motivation, let’s use your present day discomfort be what fuels your goal.
For example, say you are unfulfilled at your job or in your business. Everyday you wake up and hit snooze because you dread the idea of going into the office. Really take a moment to lean into that feeling!
Those feelings likely –
- Do not give you energy
- Do not make you fulfilled
- Do not fill you with joy
So now, ask yourself what would happen if you continued this every single day?
Or say you have chronic back pain. Maybe you’re not moving your body daily, not doing proper stretching or mobility work, and you’re not nourishing your body every day. If this path continues, you will likely –
- Feel crappy
- Lose the ability to do things in life
- Potentially develop a chronic health condition because of the lack of movement
Now, use THAT as the motivation to start working out, eating healthy and nourishing your body! Do that instead of using this pie in the sky idea of “wouldn’t it be so great if I did x, y and z.”
It’s wonderful to journal about your goals but if you’re not reaching them, perhaps consider writing down what would happen if you don’t reach them and use that as the reason to get it done and make it happen.
This is just a different way of looking at things because realistically, most people’s primary driver is discomfort and pain because we don’t want to experience it!
Throughout my time as a nutritionist, I can tell you that the majority of the people who came to me weren’t in great or optimal health. They came to me because they just experienced the pain of a recent diagnosis they received at the doctors office.
So the next time you have a goal that you really want to achieve, ask yourself –
- What will happen if I do nothing?
- Who will I help if I do nothing?
- Who will I become if I do nothing?
- Who will I continue to be if I do nothing?
- How is my life going to feel if the pain or discomfort don’t go away?
Email me at carmen@carmenohling.com if the first month of 2020 didn’t go as you had hoped! I’m here to support you and would love to go over any roadblocks that may be in your way.
Wishing you a ton of light and love,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Jan 23, 2020 | Live.
The #1 thief of joy is…
COMPARISON & WATCHING WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING!!
I have made this mistake time and time again, and it has always left me feeling like I wasn’t enough and I wasn’t doing enough… This might resonate a lot with you and to be clear, who is to blame you?!
In a world of picture perfect photos that only show someone’s life as a highlight reel, it’s easy to think that we just aren’t measuring up.
But I’m here to tell you that that is a lie.
Here’s what I’ve learned and want to share with you. For starters, it’s simple but not easy! This takes practice especially when there’s so much noise coming at us everyday!
3 Simple Truths
1️. Everyone has something unique and valuable to share but when you start emulating others it dulls your authentic voice. ⠀
2️. Constantly consuming what others are doing leaves you feeling inadequate and slows or completely stops your progress.
3️. You can do anything but you can’t do everything all at once; and when you try you simply stretch yourself too thin, create mediocre results and leave yourself feeling burnt out. ⠀
Ready to get off the comparison train and stay in your own lane?
3 Simple Rules
1️. Decrease the amount of time you spend consuming content.
That means less scrolling, no more buying courses that you don’t complete, or signing up for free webinars to learn and never taking action. JUST STOP 🛑⠀
2️. Spend time with yourself, with your thoughts, and trust your intuition.
You are always what you’ve been looking for and you have all the answers. Give yourself this gift of time. Start trusting and believing in yourself!
3️. Get a coach or mentor in your life ASAP that is where you want to be.
You don’t need a $20k mastermind, simply someone you’re connected to and is showing up how you want to show up. They will guide you, help you learn your lessons and push you to a place you’ve only dreamed of! 💛
If you’re feeling called and you know you’re ready for this next step, I want to help! Join me and an exclusive group of other ambitious women who are ready to take action, build community, practice radical responsibility and finally step into their power through my private group coaching and mentoring! All you need to do is click here to apply.
Wishing you a ton of light and love,
Carmen
by Carmen Ohling | Jan 15, 2020 | Eat.
Does your mouth start to water every time you see a gigantic cheeseburger with bacon?
Weird, mine doesn’t. Why?
I practice eating foods that nourish my body, give me energy and help me achieve optimal health on a daily basis. It’s interesting that when you do this you actually crave real, nourishing foods instead of gut bombs like this burger. ⠀
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BUT, KNOW THAT THERE ARE THOSE TIMES….⠀
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Those times that all I can think about is ice cream, pizza and french fries. ⠀
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This is the reason for this blog! There are times and situations when I know this will happen and I wanted to share this with you….⠀
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BE AWARE OF CRAVINGS WHEN….⠀
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1. You are lacking sleep or are exhausted.⠀
Sleep deprivation increases cravings! Your body starts producing a hormone that tells your brain you’re hungry in larger amounts than usual. So when you’ve been running on empty all day (or all week!) and you’re feeling like all you want to do is grab snacks left in right, check in with yourself and consider creating time for some rest.
2. You are overly hungry and would eat anything. ⠀
Think of your hunger on a scale of 1-10. “1” is when you feel completely satiated and “10” is when you would literally eat a piece of paper to feel better. Often times as busy and ambitious women, we are in go-go-go mode all the time. That means, we only ever really notice we are hungry when we are HUNGRY. Try monitoring your hunger especially around lunchtime or dinner. If you know that you are going to need to go get lunch outside of the office or if the dinner you’re making is going to take some time, consider getting a headstart on that before you are starving. Try the rule of thumb to not let your hunger get past a “7” because that’s when poor food choices are made.
3. You are stressed and use food to numb. ⠀
Is life going 100 miles an hour for you? Are you working on trying to meet a deadline?
During these times, it’s easy to reach for a bag of chips or something sweet without even really being hungry. So next time you get the urge to snack check in with yourself. Take a step back from whatever you’re doing and ask yourself, “Am I really hungry? Or am I stressed out?” Pause and listen to your body at that moment and you’ll know what to do.
4. You are bored and use food to numb. ⠀
In moments of idleness, it’s super easy to try to eat or snack in order to pass the time. I can’t tell you how many times in the past I’ve been waiting on my husband to finish getting ready before we go somewhere and I found myself wanting to rummage through our pantry. In general, try filling the empty time blocks in your life with an activity! Read a book, go for a walk, or do some stretching.
5. You allow others eating shitty food to be your excuse for you to do the same- you have to be polite. (BS!)⠀
Nope. This isn’t a valid excuse. You have to take a stand for yourself despite what other people might be doing. Do you know that your colleagues go to a fast food place for lunch several times a week and always invite you? In these moments you have to choose… and you have to choose you first. Take your lunch to work and honor the time you took to assemble it by actually eating it! If you absolutely must partake in eating out for an event, you can always do your best by asking your waiter to have your food prepared a certain way like not putting butter on your vegetables or swapping fries for a salad.
Email me at carmen@carmenohling.com and let me know how you deal with your food cravings. Need a little help in this area? Shoot me a message and we can figure out a plan that works best for you.
For some, my Clean Eating Transformation plan is what works best for them. You can learn more about it here.
Wishing you a ton of light and love,
Carmen
