How to build and maintain thriving relationships: Part #2 Female Friendships

How to build and maintain thriving relationships: Part #2 Female Friendships

🔻I use to tell myself that I wasn’t good at making friends with other women. I shied away from building intentional female relationships and I often put other women up on pedestals, dreaming to be like them. I felt like I could never be, do or measure up to how and what they were as a woman. I was afraid of what they would think of me, of saying the wrong thing, wearing the wrong thing… looking stupid.⠀

▪️Can you relate?⠀

🔺Here is what I know now. Creating intentional relationships with other powerful women lifts you up, supports you, and challenges you to be your best. Don’t get me wrong, this shift didn’t happen overnight but as I started to work on my own personal spirituality and growth I was able to begin to cultivate my own authentic voice and step into my confidence as a unique and powerful women of my own. This was the key for me. By cleaning up my side of the street, owning my own shit and and developing my own voice I was able to start sharing vulnerably and building intentional connections with the most amazing women!⠀

🔺So if you said, YES, I can 100% relate to what I shared- start by looking within. You already know the answer, it’s there. Start shining your authentic light and voice and the women that are meant to be part of your life we come…⠀

🔺I am grateful for each of the women that have made a huge impact on my life, I thank you and send you so much love today.⠀

THE TRUTH ABOUT FLAWS

THE TRUTH ABOUT FLAWS

I take care of my body. Movement, nourishing foods, self-awareness, slowing down radical responsibility, dream chasing and love fill my days. I am relentless about caring for my body and mind and I set boundaries like a mother f**cker!⠀⠀

BUT,  I HAVE FLAWS TOO… 👇🏽👇🏽⠀⠀
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I have stripes on my body (aka stretch marks). Check out the back of my thighs!⠀⠀
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I have a ton of scars on my skin: thank you chicken pox, box jumps, acne, burns and more I am sure I am missing!⠀⠀
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If I am not careful I can put work, achievement and the illusion of sourcing my self worth from what society tells me is “success.”⠀⠀
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I spent years (literally like 30+) hating my body and in constant comparison to other women that I placed on a pedestal as “better” than me, “prettier” than me, more “successful” than me, “stronger” than me… the list was endless! ⠀⠀
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NOW I KNOW… 👇🏽👇🏽⠀⠀
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We are all one. Truly we are more alike than different. I’ve discovered that true, authentic vulnerability is the most rewarding part of our human existence. Try it!⠀⠀
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Our physical body does not defined our self worth. Neither does the scale, clothes size or any other way we use to measure our skin. Start taking care of your body and mind consistently every day, focusing on what feels good to you (not what is expected) and watch your confidence soar! ⠀⠀
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Comparison is the most detrimental activity in our daily lives. WE MUST STOP! For me, after 30 years of comparison programming, it takes daily intentional reframing of my thoughts to ensure I am aligning my thoughts with my highest self daily. If you’re stuck in the comparison spiral, try this: recognize when your comparing, tell yourself “this thought is not of my highest self,” then choose a new thought. ⠀⠀
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TELL ME… 👇🏽👇🏽⠀⠀
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One thing that is holding you back from living your best life, you are ready to let go of… Or better yet join me at the Permission Slip Tour on March 7th in Portland, Oregon and we can chat more about this in person!
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Sending each of you a ton of love and light today. May it fill you with inspiration and energy!

Carmen

Everyone needs help sometimes….

Everyone needs help sometimes….

REAL TALK….⠀

How often do you ask for help? ⠀

If you’re anything like I was, and the other thousands of women out there working to prove that we can do it all, the answer is most likely never.⠀

Here’s where we’ve got that mixed up. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness and it in no way devalues our worth as a woman. Yes, I use to think that and it’s comes up so often with the female entrepreneurs and business leaders I work with. ⠀

Asking for help is actually sign of strength and wisdom. As women, we are not meant to do this alone- so why the fuck do we think that? Why do we isolate instead of reach out when life gets tough? Why do we say “I’ve got it” when inside we have no idea how we are going to get it all done? I’ll tell you what I use to think- I was afraid of letting others down, I was living up to some stupid set of expectations that were not even my own and I sourced all of my self worth as a women from doing and accomplishing things. ⠀

THIS IS YOUR PERMISSION SLIP TO ASK FOR HELP!!⠀

Start small and build your asking muscle. Asking for help creates space, creativity and clarity in your life- in addition to building strong, powerful relationships. You will be amazed that when you start asking for help (on things that actually matter) you will feel lighter, less overwhelmed and be open to new possibilities.

Want to chat more about this?  Email me at: carmen@carmenohling.com

Sending you a ton of light and love today,

Carmen

STOP TRYING TO DO IT ALL AND BE EVERYTHING TO EVERYONE!

Are you finally ready to let go of doing it all, feeling overwhelmed and not finding joy in your life? I remember the day I said “no more” and  I let it all go!  I’ve created this guide with 3 simple steps for you to get started and find more joy in your everyday life and way less stress!

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